u/flicker

I support any woman having access to whatever she needs to manage their menstruation, because they're fucking awful. But I've never personally been a fan of putting anything in there for any extended period. I assume anything we use for this purpose is poison, since science didn't even treat women as people who exist until relatively recently.

Big same. Hope we run into each other again ♥

I don't think that you and I are entirely in agreement here, however. When I say that we need to fight back against this as furiously as we fight fascism, *I absolutely condone the use of violence against fascism.* It seeks to harm men, even the people brainwashed into supporting it, and it seeks to harm women, especially those who aren't willing to be subjugated. The paradox of tolerance is the only reason it's been allowed to go as far as it has gone. I'm not seeing a peaceful way out of it.

ETA: For the record, we're on the same side, and I love that for us! And I've upvoted you. I used to believe that violence was never, ever the answer, even the *language* of violence. But at this point... I don't think I can afford to hold that point of view any more.

Because the sort of people who *would* downvote that, have learned to avoid trying to get into these conversations.

People would likely be downvoting because if we're having a conversation about group A doing Z bad thing to group B, changing the conversation to "well group B does Y bad thing to group A" is generally seen as a not cool thing to do.

The problem for *me* now is, someone is going to come and try fighting me over how men can be, and are, victimized. I know that. Anyone with a brain knows that. Men need more support than they're getting, also, and toxic masculinity (ironically, the same kind you can find in the Man-o-Sphere) is so, so mean to men, telling them to walk it off, to suck it up... I can't *tell* you how much work I've had to do to help deprogram the fiance, who spent 20 years in the Army... *But that wasn't the discussion.* It's changing the topic.

You're not *allowed* to talk about any problems women face, without someone saying, "but men have problems, too," and then getting mad at you for being a man-hater if you don't immediately drop the thing you were talking about to discuss the problems men face. Which is such a shame, because it solves neither problem, and just serves to piss people off.

So now that I've engaged *you*, and said the thing those people weren't saying, someone (possibly multiple someones) are going to try and fight me. I'm going to try and ignore them, but I have ADHD, so we'll see what happens.

The difference between the nude beach and getting unsolicited dick pics, is if you *go* to a nude beach, you kinda agreed to see naked people.

Redpill, incel, gender-normative bullshit is *violence.* It seeks to hurt men by forcing them into the mold of "masculinity" (and defines that masculinity, in some places, in a *very* toxic fashion) and we all know how it hurts women.

It needs to be fought back, and as furiously as fascism.

I want to come throw hands on all these people for you!

I'm genuinely sorry your boss said that to you, but it sounds so fucking ridiculous I laughed. Jesus. Imagine being so stupid that someone might *die.*

Ya'll are kinder than I am. I say put him outside and let the problem solve itself.