u/UniversalBasicJustice

Cloudberg is a she! You are absolutely correct that she is an excellent subject matter expert though.

There's a difference between feeling empathy and providing grace or forgiveness. It is absolutely acceptable and healthy to set boundaries on what you are capable of forgiving, but giving up empathy is a different story. Empathy is what makes us human, makes us care about each other. You absolutely can (and, IMO, should) keep caring about these people who have hurt you. If someone shares a true human connection with you, that matters. Thats what you should empathize with.

That said, people are products of their circumstances, environments, and the systems they grew up within. Depending on those factors, people may develop incredibly maladaptive behaviors, or be subject to untreated mental health issues; this can lead to unhealthy behaviors that harm those around them.

It is not your responsibility to fix them, nor guide them. Even if they recognize themselves as the source of their problems and wish to change and grow, it is still not your job to drag them through that process. Actively caring for someone isn't the only option. Caring for someone can be remote, can be passive or entirely uninvolved in their life. You are absolutely allowed to set those boundaries, or to set more open boundaries and do what you can to help them if you wish.

To stop caring for them altogether, however, is a mistake. If you genuinely connect with and care about someone, hang onto that. Hang onto your love for fellow humans because that empathy, that love is what keeps humans growing and moving forward. It is okay to separate yourself from those who harm you, okay to leave someone to their journey, but to stop caring for them dehumanizes yourself just as much as it dehumanizes them.

Could you elaborate on "needless levels of empathy"?

Because they wouldn't get to that position if they were just plain stupid.

Counterpoint: Trump

The influence of money outweighs intelligence every time, which is precisely why your second statement holds true.

Note: no opinion either way, but thought exercise;

Pilots mayday'd ATC ~10 seconds after take-off. Survivor could've heard the engines die, oxygen masks may have deployed when ram-air turbine spun up, may've seen the ground getting closer instead of further away. Twenty adrenaline-fueled seconds is quite a bit of time. Main variable keeping me skeptical is finding a survivable intersection of fall height and distance from explosion.

Engine failure during take-off would lead to an abrupt decrease in the rate of change of acceleration; by definition the 'jerk'. Escaping via the emergency exit in that time is feasible. Timing the jump...questionable, but possible.

YouTube [isn't] even worth checking out anymore. It's just garbage.

Haaaave you met Baptists?

Yeah, I'll give you that one.

>bring back McCarthyism

Fuck outta here with that authoritarian bullshit. You truly want to hold millions of people responsible for falling victim to Zuck getting high off Cambridge Analytica and globalizing the flood-gates of shit spewing? Content serving algorithms have torn communities apart, promoted violence and hate *world-wide* for most of the past 20 years. That's plenty of time for 're-education' and here we are reaping the benefits.

Hurt people hurt people. Human billionaires hurt society. Generational wealth oppressing generational trauma. Authoritarianism leads to the same power imbalance, and purging ideologies is anti-human.

This was what I took away from his comment as well. His personal experience with physical abuse likely lead him to interpret "slapped upside the head" in a more visceral way than I think OP intended. The jump in 'rhetorical spiciness' tends to prime the reader a certain way. He expressed his doubt and confusion but only after bringing up a seemingly unrelated (and potentially bigoted) example.

I mean if you think about it all of human history has been A-B testing different societal feature sets in different regions.

Primary issues I can see with retrieval are tangling/kinking and re-spooling/splicing. The fibers are insanely thin and the drones are flying in between trees, not exactly a smooth path for retrieval.

I saw a picture a few weeks ago of a field in Ukraine, taken from amongst an adjacent patch of trees, and it just looks like spiderwebs. Dozens and dozens of fine spider web strands, each one delivering a drone into the meat grinder. Terrible, beautiful, and such a fucking waste.

I'm not German dude, I'm an American.

The support behind Israel in their genocide of the Palestinians is despicable.

Any support of any genocide anywhere is despicable.

Can we please stop excusing crimes against humanity when they happen to people we don't like?

Hey, this is excellent, thank you! Definitely going to chase this down.

>10 million lived awful lives no better than that of the Jews in concentration camps.

Source?

>living in work camps for 20 generations spanning 350 years.

Source?

>Never has there been any compensation paid to descendants of slavery

I'll let you have this one

>Even today, there is still compensation paid to descendants of Holocaust victims, and the time difference between the end of slavery and the Holocaust is less than that between the Holocaust and today.

So? The US is in the wrong for not compensating, Germany is actually trying at least.

>not the 20 million Slavs.

We're discussing the Holocaust perpetuated by the Nazi regime against Jewish people and other so-called 'undesireable' humans, not Stalin's crimes against the people he was ostensibly responsible for. Stay on topic.

>Even though Slavs are a more homogeneous ethnic group than Jews. It was just inconvenient during the cold war to see the USSR and its citizens as a victim worthy of compensation.

Why are you using ethnic homogeneity as an argument in your favor? Especially when trying to minimize the Jewish Holocaust in favor of painting the USSR as the victim‽

>The Nazi's never had popular democratic support for the war and genocide

>The Germans of WW2 never reached that level of moral depravity, only a few Nazi's did

Source? Pretty sure we had some pretty public trials over those claims already.

I don't even disagree with you about Gaza, you've just got incredibly shit takes on history.

If his home instance is any indication, this absolutely tracks for the Midwest US. I grew up in the northern Midwest and drove past a Confederate flag frequently for the better part of 15 years. I got to thinking about it; I recognized it as a dog whistle for racism, but did the people who flew it so proudly recognize it as such?

And I realized they probably didn't. They likely saw it as a 'proud symbol of their good ole boy, "states rights fighters" Southern heritage.' and frankly, that idea bothered me at a deeper level than if they were flying that flag as a dog-whistle.

The people of Germany have taken generational responsibility for the horrendous, genocidal 3rd Reich. They own it, they condemn it, and they do their best to combat misinformation about it.

Not so for the US. We tried, briefly, a little bit, to affect and promote Reconstruction. It failed pretty spectacularly thanks to Andrew Johnson's vetoes. The ensuing decades saw white supremacists develop the Good Ole Boy myth, white-washing and denying the true reason they wanted to fracture the Union.

Jump to today; Germans arguing against anti-Semitism while the US is deporting brown people to concentration camps.

My passport arrived today, praise Satan. Trying to properly secure a work visa in the EU but will also have my bugout bag with documentation close at hand.

Speaking of; got any job opportunities for a 2 YOE mechanical engineer? Or advice on applying to Masters programs in Germany? I believe I can travel to and stay in the Schengen Zone for 90 days visa-free with the US passport, but I'm not sure if I'm able to convert that to a work permit.

Any EU friends able to help a worried AuDHD dude? I know zero people who have traveled internationally and I'm lost.

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